to Frank

I keep trying to start this but can't figure out how to say what I want to say. It was a real shock to read your tweet from the other day, the one about the twins. I mean, don't get me wrong, I understand how angry you must have been to see those pictures. But saying to the people who posted and reposted the picture that you hate them and wish they'd die...wow. More than likely, the person who posted the pic originally was a teenage girl, a fan, who'd seen the pic somewhere and wanted to share it with her friends. Most teenage girls love babies; they see babies as the ultimate sign of love between a couple. As in, "Aren't they so happy, they've got these sweet, adorable babies and they're so in love and it's perfect!" Basically, babies make them feel good about everybody.

Your fans love you guys, and they love to talk about you and share information and experiences. You've given them access to you and your lives, and they all appreciate that. I would guess that none of them ever wanted to hurt you by posting pictures of the twins. Kids don't understand the dangers that could be out there concerning famous people's babies. They don't stop to think, "Oh, if I put this pic on the Internet, someone could see it who'd want to take them." That wouldn't even cross their minds. They just want everyone to see the "cutest little babies in the world", if you will.

Like I said earlier, these are your fans. They don't have ulterior motives. Look at it this way: you've just told a bunch of girls half your age that you hate them all and want them to die because they put up a picture of your kids. I know about reactionary anger, how something hits you the wrong way and you just explode. I do the same thing. But, whereas my reaction won't really matter in the long run, yours will. You're in the public eye, and like it or not, people judge you by what you do and/or say. Lot of kids got turned way off by that comment you made. Maybe if you'd said, "Hey, I'd appreciate it if you wouldn't post pics of my kids, thanks for your help," the fans would be watching out for folks who did, and telling them, "Frank doesn't want you to do that" and getting the pics taken off the Web. You'd have your own monitors, so to speak.

Remember I tweeted you and said you shouldn't write when you're angry? I say this out of experience. Give yourself a chance to cool down, think about what you want to say, and then write. Saves you some hassle later on. Oh, and when you take snaps of your girls on stage with you, maybe turn them so the audience can't see them. That way you stop this from happening again. Just a thought.

I don't blame you for being angry. I just don't like it to come back and bite you in the ass.

Take care of yourself.

xo jen