For Frank

Dear Frank,

If you happen to come by here and see this post, please accept our sincerest, deepest sympathies on the loss of your grandmother. Her passing, so close on the heels of your other grandmother's, is surely taking a toll on your heart and soul.

L has lost all her grandparents in the past. I never knew any of mine, but I did lose my dad. Grieving, as I recently told a good friend of ours, is shit. There are so many levels of grief, and they all hit at different times, in different ways and intensities. Sometimes the smallest thing will trigger a memory, and you'll find yourself standing in the middle of a bookstore, wondering if they'd like you to bring them home the latest novel by their favorite author. Or you'll be walking down the street, and someone passes you who resembles them, even slightly, and you'll have to stop yourself from calling out to say hello.

I'm sure that both your grandmothers were fine women. They must have been, to be part of the Iero family.

L asked me to post these lyrics for you in hopes that the words might provide a little comfort.

Jet "Shine On"

Please don't cry
You know I'm leaving here tonight
Before I go I want you to know that there will always be a light

And if the moon had to runaway
And all the stars didn't wanna play
Don't waste the sun on a rainy day
The wind will soon blow it all away

So many times I'd planned
To be much more than who I am
And if I let you down I will follow you 'round until you understand

That if the moon had to runaway
And all the stars didn't wanna play
Don't waste the sun on a rainy day
The wind will soon blow it all away

When the days all seem the same
Don't feel the cold or wind or rain
Everything will be okay
We will meet again one day
I will shine on, for everyone

So please don't cry
Although I leave you here this night
Where ever I may go how far I don't know
But I will always be your light

That if the moon had to runaway
And all the stars didn't wanna play
Don't waste the sun on a rainy day
The wind will soon blow it all away

When the days all seem the same
Don't feel the cold or wind or rain
Everything will be okay
We will meet again one day
I will shine on, for everyone

When the days all seem the same
Don't feel the cold or wind or rain
Everything will be okayWe will meet again one day

I will shine on, for everyone


I'm so sorry, sweetheart. It will get better, in time.

love, J